The woes of a 20-something single girl…

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The first time you hear someone you’re interested in dating say the words, “I’m just too busy” do yourself a favor and RUN the other direction.  I’ve personally been on both ends of this see saw of an excuse that people tend to use.  
To me, saying you are “too busy” for someone is the ultimate slap in the face.  I am a very literal and blunt person.  I tell you what I think and I try not to hide my feelings from my relationships.  If you do not like me, if you do not want to be seen with me, or you simply have no interest in pursuing matters further, please just tell me that.  The excuse of being “too busy” is just that, an excuse.  If you want to see a person and spend time with them, you will make time.  Trust me.  I have been busy as hell and still managed to fit that one boy in my life that I had an eye for at the time.  I think that people (boys and girls both) tend to use this excuse of I’m just too busy in order to stray away from facing their feelings.  It’s much easier to give this excuse than to either A) admit they might actually like the other person (gasp!) or B) tell the other person their true feelings (..that they don’t like them).

Often times I believe we forget that the time we spend with a person whom we value and enjoy spending time with is about quality, not quantity.  Just with friendships, the number of friends you have is completely irrelevant to your happiness.  The quality of those friendships, on the other hand, play an ultimate role in your relationship success and self-esteem.  

So, the next time you here those three little words build yourself up enough courage to say no thanks and walk away.  If that person truly does care about you then they will do something about it and not let you walk away.  More importantly, if you find yourself in the position of wanting to tell someone that you’re too busy, save them them the trouble and actually confess your real reason(s) for not wanting to spend time with them.

xoxo,

Single Girl